What does normal mean?

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What does “normal” mean nowadays? – An attempt to explain “Individual Psychology”

Again a new direction of psychology? Finally we got used to Freud’s comments, to Jung and his interpretation of dreams, to systemic therapy and systemic formation, and now there is something new again! You will be surprised, something new can be exciting, can show you a new perspective. And Individual Psychology (IP) is more than 100 years old … Adler himself didn’t really like the term IP, he thought terms as holism or holistic psychology are much more accurate. Well, I better start from scratch now …
Alfred Adler founded IP in the 1910s – 1920s. While doing this he broke up with Freud. After Adler’s death crown prince Rudolf Dreikurs further developed IP in the US after 1940. Both Adler and Dreikurs had a very pragmatic approach and started counselling “from where people are”. Both of them knew people needed solutions for their sorrows and pains at home and at work. Adler noticed that all humans have their own (hidden and unconscious) agenda. He decoded the phenomenon. Most recent research of Gerhard Roth and Manfred Spitzer using fMRT confirmed Adler’s theses developed 100 years ago.
In daily life Adler thought it useful to ask “what for” instead of “why”. “Why” is retrospective, but people live forward into the future. Therefore it is more reasonable to ask “what for”, just to determine which direction you want to go.
During the years more and more news came up like: “We all are children in an aging skin”. And where is the connection to goals, directions and agendas now? Human goals and the way to cope with life were built in early childhood when the child is 3 to 4 years old. And this is its whole life experience. All strategies to live his life and to survive are built from this experience. Today the child/adult unconsciously follows these rules that were created at this early stage. Again: “ We all are children in an aging skin.”
You are looking for an example?
Imagine a child is always rejected when asking for help and support. The child might develop a bundle of strategies. Let us assume the child decided for the following: “I have to do everything by myself, nobody is there to help. I cannot depend on others.” The adult lives it this way: “No matter when and where, everything I have to do by myself. If I ask others to solve some tasks, I MUST control their work, because I cannot depend on others. I better do it on my own from scratch.”
You certainly noticed that you know such kind of people in daily life … those who have to do everything on their own, those who seem to be indispensible. And you know, this strategy leads directly into excessive demand, mental overload, exhaustion and overwork.
Now, please imagine, a leader/manager shows this behaviour. This is negative stress by all means. All employees are in constant action. Everybody has to function and perform perfectly. The overall situation exacerbates. Changes are desperately needed. To protect the most important capital of a company: the employees.
I hope this helped you to better understand of how IP works. Working with IP creates solutions and brings effects, which are feasible and suitable for daily life – a real quick win!
Certainly you might read lots of books about IP and find more profound definitions. But – what is this good for in daily life and where is the suitability for daily use. IP regards humans as holistic, indivisible and especially unique. A human is embedded in his social contacts as well at home as in his job. (S)he experiences constant exchange and interaction with all that is around her/him.

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